Grief Tending Trauma Healing
Therapy for sensitive or Neurodivergent adults and teens
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“Where there is sorrow, there is holy ground.”
Oscar Wilde
You’re feeling lost…
Grief comes forward in many ways. Perhaps years after your loss or trauma, it is suddenly staring at you in the face again. You may be overwhelmed, dissociated, numb, or tearful, and it’s impacting your work, school, your relationships, and you don’t know what to do. You may wonder what is wrong with you, and feel terrified to be facing this again.
Or you may have just lost a a child, a parent, a partner, relationship, a home, and have no idea how to deal with the pain and emptiness that is here. Likely you haven’t received the support you needed to really grieve, to feel what you’ve needed to feel. Now it is here in force and your body hurts, your energy is low, and it’s hard to think. Society has told you to “move on” and keep going, but you can’t. It’s hard to ask for help.
You Long for Support…
When you don’t have the support to grieve a big loss or trauma, it settles in you. If you weren’t able to feel the pain and love you needed to feel at the time, unconsciously you put a blanket on it, mute it, so you can go on.
However, that blanket covers more than the grief, and often our joy, our humor, our dreams, are also muted. Eventually, the numbness of depression or the intensity of panic finds its way to the surface and by that time, we don’t know why.
In our work together, I can help trace the path to the original pain, and weave grief work with trauma healing to help calm, ground and understand these reactions, so that deeper healing can happen.
You want to find a path..
We all need a light, and a hand, a place to land to help us on the path when our lives have changed so intensely. The soul longs for the depths in loss, but you are afraid that if you step into that depth, you may never come back.
I have seen time and again that stepping into the grief process with a compassionate guide is what CAN bring us back to life.
The alchemy of grief…
What if actually feeling our sorrow is the key to fully living?
When we do have the space and support to feel our sorrow, it washes us, it moves things, it cleanses and lets us grow. We both feel the pain and allow it shift into what comes next. When grief can flow when it needs to, it leaves room for the full spectrum of feelings.
If you are feeling taken down by grief, if you are replaying your trauma with your kids, if you’re having panic and overwhelm because your trauma is being triggered all the time, if you feel ashamed of your grief, tears, feel out of control, if you feel you should have “moved on” by now, then it may be time to experience the alchemy of grief and step into a more whole, present and connected life.
Jessica Malmberg, LMFT
Hello, and welcome to my practice! I’m a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in Santa Rosa, CA, working in person and virtually in California.
I help sensitive adults and teens who are facing loss or trauma, find their soul’s path through the dark so they can step more fully into life. I work with many Neurodivergent (ASD, ADHD) adults and teens, honoring their experience of the world and making room for the way that they work best. I have specialties in working with infant loss and parent loss.
Through my own deep experience with loss I have a tactile understanding of the territory of sorrow and trauma. Working with a soulful holding of the dark place you are in, as well as the use of powerful modalities such as Brainspotting and the Safe and Sound Protocol, I’m able to help your body/soul/mind experience the alchemy of grief, and open to a full and deep life.
My office is located in downtown Santa Rosa, CA and I am seeing people in person as well as virtually.
If you feel inspired to work with me, if you’re ready to step into tending to your grief or trauma, and make room for more vitality and connection, please reach out! I offer free 20 minute consultations and I am happy to answer any questions you have. Thank you for reaching out.
Email: jessica@jessicamalmberg.com
Call: (707)758-2365
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Offerings
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Grief Work
“Where there is sorrow there is holy ground.” (Oscar Wilde) Loss brings us to the deepest parts of ourselves, tender and raw, despairing and beautiful. Our culture, so addicted to the quest for happiness, can leave us alone and lost at a time we most need to feel held. I aim to help you find ground in this grief, to reframe its importance, to learn to befriend and know it, and find the richness in this precious work of mourning and loving the one you lost, whether it is through death, divorce, earth loss, or others.
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Trauma Healing
Experiences of trauma can truly disrupt our lives. Whether it is a single event or recurring stressors, we need help and support to process and integrate these experiences. Through work with proven modalities such as Brainspotting, I can help you come into a place of safety, connectedness, and flexibility, so you no longer have to be in an activated state, or removed dissociated state. I welcome those who have experienced perinatal loss, fire survivors, medical professionals, and those with childhood trauma, and more.
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Soul Work
Integral to my work is a sense of tending the soul, garnering an internal relationship with the self and the cosmos. Working with soul, we welcome the dark places, the wounds, the sorrows, and in so doing we create acceptance, and spaciousness where joy and connection can emerge. Tuning into ourselves as interconnected with the air, the sun, the trees, our community, we can feel more welcomed as part of this life, and have places to bring all of our experience. The works of Francis Weller, Carl Jung, and Clarissa Pinkola Estés, among others, inform my work in this realm.
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Neurodivergent Affirming
I welcome children and adults who are Autistic, have ADHD, Sensory Processing Sensitivities and unique ways of being in the world, to my practice. While neurodivergence brings its challenges to living in the modern world, I am continually inspired by the insights, creativity and heart brought by the clients I am honored to get to know. I offer the Safe and Sound Protocol to help increase regulation for those with social anxiety and sensory sensitivities.
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Gender Affirming, LGBTQ+ Celebrating
I welcome the beautiful spectrum of queer folx to my practice. I follow the lead of each client to support what needs attention, and what is emerging on their journey through life. I have experience working with people at various stages of gender transition.
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Adults and Teens
I welcome adult individuals, families, teens and children to my practice. I work with a mixture of depth work, mindfulness, and specialties such as Brainspotting to create a container where healing, acceptance and deepening can take place, which is unique to each person or family. I enjoy getting to know you and the unique being that you are. When working with children I offer play therapy, art and sandtray, as well as talk therapy. I can offer the Safe and Sound Protocol as an option to increase emotional regulation and decrease social anxiety.