Therapy for Pregnancy & Infant Loss in Santa Rosa, Ca
For hearts broken by loss, there is a way through this.
Available in person and online throughout California.
Bridging trauma healing and
sacred grief work.
Hi, I’m Jessica.
I help you with the loss that’s turned your world upside down.
I am so sorry for the heartbreak you are walking, for this shattering of life, of dreams, of what your life circled around daily.
Whether you are going through miscarriage, stillbirth, termination for medical reasons, infant loss, SIDS, birth trauma or the long road of infertility, these losses are so deep and so important. They deserve time and space to hold them, grieve them, and to slowly allow a new inner life to form, with the thread of their life woven through.
Too often parents are dismissed or treated like their baby never existed. In actuality, this kind of loss is one of the most painful there is.
I know this terrain personally. I was a mama before I was a therapist, and when my baby died, everything changed and I felt so lost, I didn’t even know what grief meant. Over time, I learned, piece by piece, how to love and mourn at the same time, and am so inspired to be a support to others in this place.
If you’re at a loss for how to be here right now, if you’re having trouble sleeping, if it is difficult to eat, if you don’t know who you are anymore without your little one, your response is deeply human and you deserve foundational support.
I offer therapy that bridges nourishing grief work with effective trauma treatment. You need so much more than coping skills for this time. I offer a sanctuary for your grieving heart to be accepted, to express what is there, and to find your way one step at a time through this necessary time of grieving and loving.
LGBTQ+ and neurodivergent clients are joyfully welcomed. I also love working with children and teens with art and play therapy.
Specialties
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Pregnancy & Infant Loss/Infertility
I offer a place to hold the depths of sorrow for the loss of this baby, for the overwhelm and longing of IVF. We will learn about grief and create “holdfasts” for you to anchor into grounding during this time in the dark, and find ways to connect with the love for this child so your heart, mind and body can keep living. LGBTQ+ welcome.
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Grief Work
I support you as you walk this sacred and difficult path, as you claim the heart, relief and love that comes with the flow of grief. You no longer have to reject the sad parts of you that hold wisdom and depth. In our work, we honor the descent and the importance of this territory.
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Trauma Healing
Feel present, safe and grounded, able to connect with your partner, your friends, your kids, and unbound from the triggers that take over your body and mind. With Brainspotting, depth work, and somatic work, we make room for your body, heart and nervous system to find safety and connection.
Teens/Children
Your teen or child can find security, self-love and understanding for what they are facing, whether that is the challenging drama of middle school and high school, or an intense loss. We build trust in our sessions, and a place for them to find their voice. I support many teens with ADHD and ASD, and in the queer community.
GETTING STARTED
Email, call or book a session on my calendar (below) to set up a free 15 minute consultation on phone or video, and if we are a good fit, we book our first appointment. (fill out form below)
We will book a regular, weekly session time and create a plan for tracking and supporting your process. I am here to deeply hear your story, to help you find your unique ways of grieving, to allow the building of an inner relationship with your child or loved one, to facilitate gentle trauma processing, or create meaningful rituals to help integrate this love and loss.
You find both ground and opening in the depths of your love and grief. We respectfully create a space to invite all parts of you, including joy, sorrow, humor, despair, longing and gratitude, and so many more as you walk this path. Our goal is finding wholeness that includes it all, as you build a life with this sorrow and this love.
Let’s Work Together
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My office is located in downtown Santa Rosa, CA and I am seeing people in person as well as virtually.
If you are ready to find support for your sorrow and guidance with the process of your grief, you can schedule a free consultation HERE. Or fill out this form to reach out and tell me what you are looking for and best times to contact you. I am happy to answer any questions you have. Thank you for reaching out, I look forward to talking with you.
Email: jessica@jessicamalmberg.com
Call: (707)758-2365
Jessica Malmberg, LMFT
818 Cherry Street,
Santa Rosa, CA 95404
You have come to a threshold…
This loss goes deep. Sometimes it’s more than you can bear. Your most tender dreams, ending suddenly. Your baby, your child, your loved one.
And yet you still show up, for work, for other kids, carrying this weight inside, feeling like no one really understands. It’s hard to keep going like you did before, and you know you need help.
Your partner may be grieving so differently than you, both of you overwhelmed, so exhausted and stressed, and the places that were once safe now feel empty and on the verge of collapse.
You need a place to bring this heartache, places to bring this pain of body, heart and mind that is so heavy. Doctors dismiss it, friends may tell you to “try again” without knowing the loneliness and darkness that you are moving through.
I want to hear your story and help you find ground again.
The road can be so long…
You have fought so hard to get here. So many injections, hormonal turmoil, ultrasounds, disappointing results, waiting in the unknown, waiting with the longing. Over and over again. It takes so much, it asks so much of your relationship, your sense of self, your day to day existence.
It’s easy to feel like your body is failing you, like everything is falling apart. And when a loss happens after so much effort and hope, it feels tremendously unfair.
The trauma is real. Your nervous system needs a place to land, to ground, to heal again. And caring for your heart deeply affects the state of your body.
Your body is so connected with your loved one, your baby. They left when you had not yet known separation from them. Your hearts beat together. Your biologies were completely intertwined, and both parents are primed to be keeping this child safe and thriving.
To move from this to accepting their death, to not tending to them, touching them, holding them, is excruciating. You might feel like you’ve lost yourself as well as them.
You deserve support for the ache, for the sleepless nights, for the anxiety that comes with this shock, this missing.
Our culture doesn’t have much guidance for this loss, but there is wisdom in the alchemy of grief. It brings us to the deepest part of ourselves, and there is gold in this darkness. You don’t need to be here alone.